Insecurity kills a cat

     As we all know, it's really curiosity that kills a cat, but now, I think insecurity would be more appropriate especially for girls. Do guys have any idea how long their comments and compliments will last in a girl's mind? Do they know how we became so affected by the strong words they keep on saying on us? Do they even know how most of us struggle everyday just to make the most out of a couple of minutes to prepare and look good? How do girls feel secured of themselves? When do we assure that we're already confident of ourselves?

     Insecurity has always been an issue to most girls. We seek for the enhancement of the physical appearance. We devote most of our time fixing ourselves. Some of us can't go outside the house without make-up on their faces or can't even last a day without combing their hairs and looking at the mirror. Majority of girls now are too conscious of their looks. Why this happens? It's because of insecurity. As far as I can remember, it's one of my friends who told me that constantly looking at the mirror every day is a sign of insecurity for it shows that you are not confident of your look, you're always checking and fixing. The picture of that characteristic of girls seems not to look good anymore, but we can't hide the fact that it's now the reality.  It's not a trend but an unnoticeable present problem silently spreading. More and more ladies see the physical appearance much important than the beauty inside which is the personality. If this simple problem will not be address earlier to women, maybe it can really kill a cat. It can destroy on how we believed that simplicity is already beauty. If most of us will continue valuing more the outside looks, life for us will not be really worthy and meaningful.
     Most of us experienced being teased by the people around us especially during our childhood days. Even until adolescent period, a lot of us still experienced being joked about the peculiar part of our body that we may have or worse being the subject of laughter of the group. It seems to be a common scenario do they know what's behind those smiles that we give back? I do not claim that the following statements will be a hundred percent sure; it's just my opinion and hypothesis being a girl. Most of those smiles given by girls to those who are kidding them were not really a pure smile of happiness. Maybe it's a smile that their thankful they make you laugh by doing nothing but just simply having those odd qualities but part of that every smile is thought in the back of their mind why it's them who have that. Why don't they have tantalizing eyes? a fair soft skin? a straight shiny hair? a pointed nose? Why they don't have the looks which the society sets and believes the beautiful one?
     A lot of optimistic advisers will tell that you should not think of what other people will say or think. But honestly, can anybody do this thing? If you know you're already a product of your culture which also means the product of the people around you, is it that easy to ignore their words and opinions? Most girls are easily been carried away by the judgement of the people around. A simple compliment or a negative comment lasts in a girl's mind for a long time. Some use them to be their motivation and inspiration while some take it too seriously that discourage them of doing something they're capable of. They look more on the things they didn't have than appreciating those which they have.
      Actually, even me I can't still figure out when we can assure ourselves that we're already secure and confident. I still don't know. I'm still in the realization process. I hope the answer will come in serendipity--discovering something valuable without the intention of finding it.
      Although I still don't know the answer, I have some words of wisdom to share for girls who suffer from so much insecurity. Always remember that whatever the outside is was just a reflection of what the inside is so therefore before we seek on the improvement of the physical looks we should keep in mind that what matter most are our personalities, our characteristics, and our identity. Those things will make us always beautiful throughout the time. We should not also wait for people's praises regarding our looks. Our appearance will not depend on their compliments instead it's our radiance comes from within that will make them astounded and stunned that will be the basis of their appraisal. Lastly, we are all lacking of something but that difference we have from the other should not pull us down because that's also the reason why out of billions of people we became special.